There is often confusion made between the
physical separation of twins and their development of individual identity and
independence.
In reality each set of twins have their own unique dynamics
and developmental timetables.
Placement in separate classrooms does not fit the
needs of all twins any more than it does placement together. What is true for
all twins is that their classroom placement has an important effect on their
relationship and their lives. In order for these effects to be positive, their
placement needs to be evaluated every year so that it can be adjusted as
necessary to meet the changing needs of your children.
Your twins are just starting school they will benefit
from the social support they give each other when they are in the same room.
They seem to find it easy to engage in different activities when they have the
option of being together. When they are forced to separate into different
classrooms, they may get the message that there is something wrong about being
a twin. They may suffer emotional stress
from worry about their absent co-twin and find it difficult or impossible to do
their school work.
As a schoolteacher, I currently have three sets of
identical twins and the final decision about splitting them was left to the
parent. We have one set of twins
together and two sets of twins that are split up. In each case the children are
fine. The ones together are never a
distraction or too dependent on the other, or feel "overshadowed" by
the other's achievements. The ones that are split, it too worked the best
because of some of these same issues.
My advice would be to let the children stay together
(if they want) for at least kindergarten, then maybe suggest different classes,
when they move to 1st grade. There
are many options that their teachers can exercise when staying together, such
as having them work in separate groups or sit at separate tables. Often they
just need to be aware of where the other one is. This is more common among identical
then fraternal twins, but can be true of twins of any type.
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