It is now recognised that
imaginary friends are often part of normal
development. Young children with imaginary friends are
often described as
sociable, imaginative children
who love stories and pretend play. They enjoy
playing with friends and at times when
friends are not available, they call on
their imaginary friends for entertainment.
Children
also call on their imaginary friends when they feel upset about something
that has happened or about what some one has said to them.
One report indicated that
nearly half of Greek children have had imaginary friends
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So firstly don't worry, your child is
not only normal, he is also very creative. His burgeoning imagination fuels
this wonderful fictitious creation, someone who accompanies him as he explores
the world. Its one-way children learn to make distinctions between good and
bad. For example, your child may blame his “friend” for any misdeeds, saying
"George" made him spill the milk or pull his books off the shelves.
Take his explanation at face value and help him clean up, but gently remind him
of the rules of the house. Try not to make a big deal about it when he mentions
his buddy. That means neither contradicting him (“Oh, come on, stop
pretending!”) nor grilling him about it, nor expanding on it by pretending to
meet or talk to his invisible pal. There's no reason to make him feel funny
about talking to someone who doesn't exist, but if you go all out and
incorporate his friend into your world, then you'll likely have his pal hanging
around for a long time.
In the meantime, let him enjoy the
company of his friend; he'll soon grow out of this common childhood phase.
Do update with the teacher
at school, to make sure this behavior is not interfering with his
schoolwork. Your son could also be using his interactions with invisible
friends to test his teacher’s reactions to behaviour that might be disapproved
of, so again keep in touch with the teacher thus helping him learn to regulate
his behaviour. Keep in mind imaginary
friends also enabled children to cope with new life events like moving house or
going on holiday. Has something changed at home?
Above all, it just shows how
imaginative children are, which is something we should be pleased about.
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